Spiritual compatibility: the question most matrimony sites never ask

The specific lineage or tradition you follow (Vaishnava, Shaiva, Smartha, a particular guru-parampara, or none in particular) — and how much that matters to you in a partner.

Whether you look to a living teacher, a lineage of teachers, scripture directly, or your own inquiry — and whether sharing (or not sharing) that guidance matters for a marriage.

Japa, meditation, puja, kirtan, yoga āsana — the actual daily practice, its intensity, and whether you want a partner who practices alongside you or simply respects the time it takes.

Temple attendance, festival observance, home altar/deity worship, pilgrimage — how visibly and how often spirituality shows up in daily life, not just belief in the abstract.

Vegetarian, vegan, satvic, prasadam-only, occasional exceptions, or no restrictions — a frequent source of quiet friction when partners assume alignment without ever discussing it.

Temple seva, book distribution, community organising, charitable service — whether service is a core part of your spiritual identity, and how much time/energy you expect to give it as a couple.

How you want to raise children spiritually, involvement of extended family in religious decisions, and expectations around festivals, rituals, and household dharma.

Whether marriage itself is viewed as a sacrament (samskara) in service of dharma and spiritual growth, a partnership of convenience, or somewhere in between — this shapes expectations more than most couples realise.

Long-term aims — moksha/liberation, Krishna consciousness, a quieter mind, a values-led household — and whether you want a partner walking toward the same horizon or simply not walking against it.

Temple/sangha involvement, spiritual friend circles, retreats and satsangs — how central a shared spiritual community is to your social life, versus keeping practice private.